Monday, March 30, 2009

A Match Made In... Paradise?


Whenever I’m asked about the ideal honeymoon destination, I rarely give the same answer twice. Whether you’re traveling stateside or overseas, it’s important that a couple’s personality and lifestyle be compatible with their destination of choice. If beauty is indeed in the eye of the beholder, what are the chances that my paradise will resemble yours?
You didn’t choose your fiancé on a whim. Your honeymoon should be no different. Where a couple decides to spend their first days of matrimony speaks volumes. Free-spirited or intimate? Daring or traditional? Outgoing or leisurely? Don’t let chance alone decide.
With love as the common ingredient, why not spice up the concoction? We’ve all heard about the Waikikis and Arubas of the world. But if a pre-scripted honeymoon at an all-inclusive resort isn’t your style, then try one of these on for size.

Life of the Party
Key West, FL
If you want tropical without straying too far from home, there’s no better place than the Florida Keys. Key West’s mellow party vibe has a funk all its own (guaranteed by none other than Jimmy Buffett). A mecca for bohemians and beach bums alike, Key West will let your wildest dreams of island escapism run their course. Scuba or snorkel by day, then let loose at night at one of Duval Street’s many hot spots (just be sure to keep an eye out for any free-ranging chickens that might wander your way). If parasailing doesn’t blow your skirt, then don’t rule out a sunset cruise or dolphin watching.

Barcelona, Spain
A magnet for night owls and architect buffs, this Spanish culture capital has a style that few cities can rival. The Mediterranean provides the climate, and the street performers and nightlife of La Rambla Street deliver the rest. If bullfighting isn’t your idea of a romantic outing, then catch the latest Flamenco dance. Indulge yourself with Catalonian cooking where seafood isn’t just cuisine, but a way of life. And if your timing is right, witness the spectacle of Spain’s renowned Carnival.

Wild-at-Heart
Acadia National Park, Maine
The only national park in New England, Acadia offers unparalleled coastal beauty, not to mention activities for casual hikers and adrenaline junkies alike. The views are spectacular, the landscape pristine, and the wildlife plentiful. Where else can you eat freshly caught lobster and stay at a bed-and-breakfast with ocean views? The diverse geography of the park includes marshes, meadows, dense evergreen forests, and mountains rising from the sea. Whether you’re into climbing granite peaks or taking in the scenery, Acadia is a nature lover’s paradise.

Queenstown, New Zealand
Welcome to the adrenaline capital of the southern hemisphere. It wasn’t by chance that Queenstown became the birthplace of bungy-jumping. Activities include skydiving, hang gliding, caving, and skiing, to name just a few. In the heart of the Southern Alps along the shore of crystal clear Lake Wakatipu, Queenstown serves up some of New Zealand’s most breathtaking views. If crowds aren’t your thing but you’re still looking for some excitement, try nearby Lake Wanaka as an alternative.

Down to Earth
Niagara Falls, NY
A world class destination with something for everyone, Niagara is a rarity that actually lives up to all the hype. We’ll leave it up to you whether you prefer the American or Canadian side. Either way, you’ll be left with breathtaking views and memories for a lifetime. Be forewarned: there has been reported sightings of heart-shaped Jacuzzis. Though plenty of man-made distractions abound — casinos, arcades, and tacky shops along the boardwalk — the undeniable beauty of the one-hundred-and-sixty-seven-foot falls is a crowd-pleaser.

Québec City, Canada
Unique is the best word to describe this four-hundred-year old hidden gem overlooking the St. Lawrence River. The only walled city in the Americas north of Mexico, Québec City has convinced more than one traveler to skip Montréal all together in favor of its smaller, more intimate neighbor. Québec City’s down-to-earth citizens will be more than proud to show off their town’s Old World charm. Walk hand-in-hand down the narrow cobblestone streets lined with 17th- and 18th-century houses. Wander far enough and you might just come across musicians, street-performers, and actors in period costumes who have a tendency to show up in the most unlikely places.

Sun Lovers
Cumberland Island, GA
Retreat to the very place where JFK, Jr. held his clandestine wedding. Much like the tide washing ashore, time moves at a slower pace on Cumberland. Explore oak-lined trails or sun yourself on sandy beaches where you just might catch sight of one of the island’s wild horses. The only lodging outside of a campsite is the luxurious Greyfield Inn, which is still furnished as it was at the turn of the century (that would be the twentieth century). And if you’re thirsting for civilization, the quaint seaside town of St. Mary’s makes for a great excursion.

The Dalmatian Coast, Croatia
This pearl of the Adriatic is sometimes forgotten amidst its more famous Greek and Italian neighbors. In the port town of Dubrovnik, atmosphere is at a premium with marble streets, red-tiled rooftops, and a Mediterranean climate. The surrounding archipelago of forty-eight islands scattered beyond the city include the renowned Korcula, with its many quiet coves and secluded beaches. The island is also home to some of Croatia’s finest wines and olive oil. Watch yachts glide along the coastline in this seafarer’s paradise.

 - Josie Macalester

Thursday, March 12, 2009

Too Many Cooks In the Kitchen

Too many cooks in the kitchen can spoil the soup may be a proverb from days past, but its message still rings true.  Of the many hurdles that an upcoming wedding can present, dealing with your future mother-in-law can often be the most vexing.  Planning for your big day should bring you closer to the in-laws, but so often the pressure and decision-making can sour that newfound relationship like a plate of deviled eggs served long overdue.  

In order to prevent your new life together from starting out on the wrong foot, follow these seven virtues when dealing with the Queen Bee – whether she’s a saint, or a monster-in-law in the making.

1. Courage

When it comes to preparing for your wedding, don’t let the smell of fear be your first impression.  Even if your mother-in-law is footing some (or all) of the bill, you should still have a say on the preparations.  After all, it’s not every day you get to walk down the aisle.  So don’t be a push-over.  Show some spine, girl!

2. Temperance

Whenever the tea kettle is about to blow its top, it’s time to put things into perspective.  Be the better person and exert self-control.  If a certain dance or prayer doesn’t fit into your idea for the perfect wedding, sometimes compromising the smaller things is worthwhile.  If Mom-in-law insists you wear a family heirloom necklace when you already have your accessories picked out, suggest sewing it into your garter, or converting it into a bracelet.  If you show you’re willing to compromise, chances are she will do the same.

3. Prudence

Sometimes you can’t do everything yourself.  When you aren’t having any luck flying solo, then it’s time to call in the cavalry.  After all, it’s your fiancé’s wedding too.  Try to avoid confrontation if possible and let him deal with the situation.  She’ll respond better if she knows that her son is also onboard.  It will also be much easier for her to forgive him than to forgive you.

4. Justice

There may be times when you may want to unleash your inner demon by yelling, screaming, or saying something that you’ll regret.  But there are some things that you can’t take back.  So take a deep breath, and if need be, leave the room to cool off.  Avoid passive-aggressive behavior (even if she’s a pro at it).  Calmly explain how she has offended you.  And remember - not everything is worth fighting for.  Sometimes you just need to bite your tongue and move on.

5. Faith

Have faith in the bond that you and your fiancé share.  Wedding preparations might require flexibility on your part, but don’t change your personality on a whim.  Remember your fiancé fell in love with you because you’re you.

6. Hope

Just like you hoped your knight in shining armor would one day sweep you off your feet, don’t lose hope when dealing with your in-laws.  Keep your chin up despite minor setbacks.  Pessimism is too often a self-fulfilling prophecy.

And last but not least…

7. Love

Before any cliché eighty’s anthems start blaring in your head, let’s be honest.   It was that ten-thousand-kilowatts of Romeo-and-Juliet love that got you this far.  So what makes you think it can’t take you the distance?  Though you might often feel like you’re drowning in the day-to-day details, don’t lose sight of the bigger picture.  If the love you share with your fiancé can stand the test of time, then certainly the love and acceptance of your new family can withstand a single day.

  - Josie Macalester

Southern Belle Takes On Mother Nature!


Outdoor wedding ceremonies in the Lowcountry bring to mind sweeping oak trees draped in Spanish moss, historic gardens, and turquoise waters under fiery Atlantic sunsets. But this idyllic fairytale can quickly come crashing down when you throw heat, humidity and bugs into the mix. But fear not – the fairytale can still come true if you pay a little extra attention beforehand. Follow these tips to avoid feeling the brunt of Mother Nature.

Heat Factor:

-       Upon arrival, have your greeter(s) pass out glasses of ice-cold lemonade. Afraid of broken glasses but still want that touch of elegance? Pick up some disposable “crystal” plastic or acrylic cups from your local party store.

-       When the Lowcountry temperatures soar towards 90, keep your guests cool by passing out (personalized) hand fans.

Humidity:

-       Be sure to keep well-hydrated leading up to the ceremony. The drier your hair is, the more it will frizz-out! Drink plenty of water, condition your hair daily, and consider using a twice-weekly oil treatment. Also talk to your stylist before your big day. Her ideas on products and styles may well keep your hair under control!

-       Keep your face on. More than one blushing bride as risked looking like a half-melted candle due to the one-two punch of heat and humidity. To combat the heat, start off with a facial wash and astringent that help control oil. Make sure to use waterproof mascara and eyeliner (a must even in cold weather, as you will likely shed a few tears of joy on your wedding day!).  Also use a loose finishing powder to serve as a “matte” over your eye shadow and foundation. It’s also a good idea to bring along tissue paper squares to blot your face throughout the day to absorb excess oils without disrupting your make-up. Most important, book an appointment with a make-up artist. They will have plenty of tricks to keep you looking fresh from morning till night!

Bugs, bugs, and more bugs:

-       There’s nothing more distracting than a bug-slapping bride during the “I –dos”.  Avoid bug sprays that leave an odor and residue. Instead, enlist your father or a family friend to fog the periphery the morning of your ceremony. Organic solutions are also available – check with your local hardware store for options.

-       Place citronella and TIKI candles around the ceremony area. Not only will it keep bugs at bay, the romantic ambience may just rekindle Aunt Fern and Uncle Frank’s long-lost passion!

-       To avoid bees, have your florist clip the pollen from your bouquet. You may also want to avoid heavily fragranced flowers, so as not to attract stinging attention. 


- Melissa L Hickman